I’m sure my story sounds a lot like many of your stories… a busy mom, working outside (0r inside) the home, just trying to love God, my husband, and my kids, all while trying to pursue my dreams.
Some would call this “the grind of life.”
There just never seems to be enough hours in a day for all of it. Needless to say, the pursuit of our dreams usually takes the third-row seat to our family.
I’ve been toying with the idea of starting a blog for sometime now. When I was pregnant with my second child, back in late 2014, I even started brainstorming possible names for my blog, and thinking about what I would want to write about. But I never did take the leap.
Fast forward to February 2016, and not only do I have a needy 3-year-old, but also an even needier infant, and a full-time job. Yet here I am, finally starting my blog!
I’m not really sure how I got to this point, but I do know there are a lot of things that I could’ve let keep getting in my way. Here are a few reasons I decided to grab the bull by the horns and just start pursuing my dreams already:
1) Because they probably won’t invent a dryer that folds the laundry for us anytime soon, and even if they did we probably couldn’t afford it.
There are several household tasks that seem to get the best of me. Laundry being high up on that list. I mean it just never stops, and if you try to ignore it, it only makes the situation worse when you finally decide to face the music. Laundry didn’t use to be so time-consuming when I was single. Now I have my husband’s work clothes, gym clothes, and sleep clothes to wash, along with the associated underwear for each outfit, and then the clothes of a messy toddler and his baby sister that spits up just about as much as the girl from the movie The Exorcist. All I can say is I now understand why those mailmen went postal…in the words of Newman from the infamous show Seinfeld, “because the mail never stops,” and neither does laundry.
2) Because our families will never stop needing food to survive, and they usually expect us to figure out where their next meal is coming from.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love to cook. I watch the Food Network and I play on Pinterest all the time looking for recipes…only a few of which I have actually made. The problem isn’t that I don’t enjoy cooking, the problem is I don’t really feel like cooking after a full day’s worth of work! All I want to do is plop myself down on the couch, watch some Fixer Upper and call it an evening. But I have kids now, who expect to eat everyday, several times a day as a matter-of-fact, and while it’s totally acceptable for me to eat cereal for dinner, I can’t say that my husband would be ok with making that a regular thing in our household. So cook I must!
3) Because it’s unlikely that we will win the lottery, or come into an inheritance anytime soon, so heigh-ho heigh-ho it’s off to work we go.
If you’re one of those households that can make it on one income, more power to you, but this is not the reality for my family at this stage in life. My husband and I met at chiropractic school, so we both have the equivalent of a very nice home mortgage in the form of student loans. We own our own successful chiropractic practice, but overhead expenses keep us from taking home as much money as we would like, which in turn keeps us from paying off debt. Recently, I took a full-time job outside of our business to supplement our income so we could buy our dream home (although not quite dreamy yet). With the new home comes a larger mortgage, and an even greater need for additional income, so even though work takes up a large amount of my time and energy, there’s just no getting around it right now.
4) Because when mom is happy, everyone is happy!
Ok, maybe not really, but what I have learned is that if I spend all my time and energy on doing for others and I don’t take the time to recharge and do for myself on a regular basis I will eventually become resentful and run out of the will to give. You can’t pour into others with an empty cup, so take the time to fill up.
In all seriousness, I know these reasons are somewhat ridiculous, but the point I’m getting at is if we continue to wait for all the stars to align to pursue our dreams it will never happen. We will always find reasons for our dreams to stay in that third-row seat way in the back of our family’s crossover SUV.
I don’t have all the answers, but what I do know is that for moms like us, we have to find the humor in the grind of life to keep our sanity…to keep our joy! So come along on this journey with me in trying to live and love life in the daily grind.